New Year, More Refined You
By Bethany |
May 06, 2018 |
Hey guys! And HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
I’ve never been a fan of the saying “New Year, New You.” Even if you don’t like you very much right now, there doesn’t need to be a “new” you. There might be some bad habits that you need to get rid of or good habits to pick up. There might be some minor adjustments you need to make to your daily schedule or resolve some issues but a whole “new” you seems a little dramatic and like something only Jesus can do anyway so let’s leave that to him while we work within the personality, gifts and traits, He’s given us.
It reminds me of a story of a guy who could only concentrate for a few minutes at a time. After years of being a solid C student, he finally decided to stop thinking he could change and work around it. He would study for 5-10 minutes at a time and then for 5-10 minutes go shoot hoops or play a video game. He would return to his studies for another 5-10 minutes. He started doing this his Junior year of college and graduated with Honors. He didn’t have to change who he was, he changed how he approached himself. **Story of Stephen Duneier | Tedx Tucson.**
Here are a few tips to help you be more successful this year.
- 1. Take 100% responsibility for creating what it is you want - It’s no one else’s job to get you where you want to be or to make you happy. Reality check, I know. But let it settle in and it will empower you! Take ole Stephen from the story above. He took responsibility for what he wanted. He no longer let the fact that he couldn’t concentrate for long periods of time keep him from making good grades. So if you’re not an early riser, don’t say “this is the year I’m going to get up at 5:00 a.m. and do xyz.” Work around it!
- Stop blaming- This is very similar to number 1 but worth mentioning separately. If you are over the age of 20, you can no longer blame your parents or anyone else for your life. If you’re screwed up, go to a counselor, a retreat, church or yoga. You might’ve been dealt a crappy hand but those cards are in your hand and you have the power to make good out of them. (Again….how empowering?!?!)
- Lose the self doubt- You absolutely have to believe in yourself to achieve anything. Banish the words “I can’t.” Jack Canfield says every time you use the words ‘I can’t’, you disempower yourself.” My mama calls this “stinkin thinkin” and yo have to getrid of it. Your words AND thoughts will either sabotage you or push you forward. Choose them wisely.
- You’re not too old and you’re not too young- I’m too old. I don’t remember things like I used to. It’s too late for me. Well, my friend, if you woke up this morning t read this blog, then you’ve got time. Use it wisely. On the flip side of that, you’re not too young. I have two daughters ages 14 and (almost) 9 and I pray everyday that they would recognize their gifts and talents and desires and start RIGHT NOW doing what God has called them to do in this life because I know they aren't too young to start living their dreams and making a difference in this world.
- Meditate- Set aside quiet time for reflection, self inquiry or prayer. This is a new one for me but I hear all the ultra successful people do it AND i’m a yoga teacher so I probably should’ve been doing it a long time ago, but being intentional with a quiet time is essential to allow God to speak to you and let your creativity flow. Envisioning where you want to be is a powerful tool to help you get there. See yourself reaching your goal. What is your facial expression like? How do you feel reaching it? If you want a new home, envision what it looks like and see yourself and your family living in it. I’ve been using the Insight timer app for FREE and do their guided meditations. Highly recommend it!
- Do NOT indulge the naysayers- The world if full of them, so guard your ears and your heart. Some people will discourage you because they’re consciously or unconsciously bitter that you’re pursuing your dreams and they aren’t. Sometimes those who discourage us, push us towards our goal because who doesn’t like proving people wrong?!?!!? And some naysayers are just trying to protect us. We need someone to say “that’s a horrible idea” to the really horrible ideas. But if it’s something you KNOW isn’t, don't take it personally. Just keep moving forward. Remember, both encouragers and discouragers serve a purpose.
7. “Work like it depends on you and pray like it depends on God” - Mark Batterson’s book, The Circle Maker. Work hard. Work REALLY hard. Work as if this whole dream depends on you. Do the hard things. Don’t give up. And then pray. Pray like this whole thing depends on God.
8. Find yourself a mentor- Even if you have to pay them. You might get to that point in your career, where you just don’t know what else to do. You’re working hard, doing everything you know to do, but you’re not making the money you want, and you need some help. Get yourself a mentor. Someone who knows what they're doing, with a proven track record and then do what they tell you.
Let's leave it all on the table in 2018 guys. I pray all your wildest dreams come true.