- Kim Honeycutt
I was chatting with my friend and Psychotherapist, Kim Honeycutt, the other day. She is going to be speaking again at this year's Empowerment Tour and she dropped this little nugget of truth on me and blew my mind wide open.
I ruminated on it all day and here are my thoughts:
Constantly being offended and taking things personally is a sign of emotional immaturity. Blaming others and making assumptions about what someone said/did and allowing that assumption to bring on anxiety is a sign of emotional immaturity. The emotionally immature Christian can read the Bible front to back and church it up every Sunday but will never be able to spiritually outgrow where they are emotionally. Saying “emotionally immature” sounds harsh but you don’t know what you don’t know. So no judgements. I’ve been there. (Still am on a lot of things, I’m sure!)
Before practicing yoga, I blamed everything and everyone else for my fits of rage and anxiety. I didn’t know that I was being triggered when I was being triggered. I didn't even know what a trigger was! I didn’t know I could control my thoughts or how to set boundaries. All of these things, I had to learn. And when you know better, you do better. (hopefully)
What Kim says makes perfect sense. I was going to church and small group and doing all the “Christian” things but so much wasn’t sinking in because I was still very emotionally immature. I could read the scripture all day long but it was not able to penetrate my heart until I started digging deep and healing emotionally. Once I did, boy did my relationship with Jesus really take off and rise to a whole new level. I am so grateful he stuck it out with me and continues to pour out His grace and mercy.